Chocolate cake, mmm…
Admit it, there is a piece of chocolate cake just sitting there and you want it. You start negotiating with yourself and you try ever so cleverly to trick yourself in to eating it. First it starts out innocent enough: Wow, is that piece for me? Someone must have wanted me to have it. It’s not good for my diet, but it looks sooo good.
Then the rationalization begins…
Maybe just a little piece won’t make a difference, I did work out today so I already burned these calories, I probably won’t gain anything, it would be rude of me NOT to eat it!
Finally the little food addict in most of us takes over and we give in and have the cake. Of course along with the piece of cake comes:
- Feeling like a failure
- Desire to give up yet another diet
- Feeling defeated
- Feeling unhealthy
This perpetual cycle of wanted to lose weight, starting a diet, cheating, weight gain and guilt will continue until you make a change. That change needs to happen BEFORE you pick up that piece of cake. Certainly your unrelenting inner critic has a say in all this but she doesn’t need to take center stage. What you need to do is ask yourself is what have I learned from this? What can I do better next time I am tempted?
For starters….learn how to say NO to yourself. Perhaps you require immediate gratification? Perhaps you feel so miserable that chocolate cake is the highlight of your day. Let’s hope not. Stop putting such an emphasis on being able to eat whatever you want. It is over rated! What you want is not in that cake! Food is just sustenance, not your friend or adversary for that matter. Certainly joy can be received from eating certain delicacy’s, but it cannot replace love, companionship, affection, or appreciation. If you do not have someone in your life giving those things to you, you need to be giving them to yourself. More on that in my next blog.